Like many persons, I watched #NappilyEverAfter and I must say I was very much intrigued. I think like many others though, I had expected a wedding at the end of the movie. The lack thereof, however, signals that the focus of the movie wasn’t about the #happilyeverafter; but more so about stepping out of everyone’s idea of who you are and what you represent into your own true self. I must say, well played Sanaa Lathan!

Let’s raise a glass to self-acceptance, knowing that it is not determined by perfection.

I think it is safe to say we all have had at least one moment in life when we broke down questioning life and our whole existence. We all have gone through, what I’d like to term, “discover myself 2.0”; where we try to get in touch with our inner self, to understand who we are and what we stand for.

For me, I think discovering who you are is one of the most important adventures in your life. It is that period in life when you learn to appreciate your capabilities, therefore, identifying your hopes, fears, strengths, weaknesses and overall philosophy towards life. In essence, learning to believe in yourself and trusting the process.

I have learned that life is a process of discovery. Every day above ground allows us the opportunity to learn new things; insights, experiences and to gain wisdom. It’s not intended to happen all at once. Growing into your true self is a process and it takes time and dedication. On that journey, we will have to face and combat our demons; learn to love yourself – the good, the bad and the indifferent. Don’t become impatient with yourself, trust the process and grow into your own self. As Screenwriter Eric Roth once said “for what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be…I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again”.

Note that each one of us will have our day or days that will activate that hidden quality or aspects that will unravel a layer (or two) in the pursuit of discovering our authentic self. So there is no need to rush the process. Just embrace it! It is not innate to me or you; we all have been there and is still experiencing our truth in discovering who we really are.