The Imposter Syndrome Explained & Conquered With Ines Padar

Hey Overachiever!

What new job did you start this year? Which award did you receive this year? What new company or venture have you been excelling in? Do you feel as though these accomplishments were just luck? Are you feeling like you are in over your head? Are you afraid of asking for that pay increase to match your worth? Are you questioning whether or not you really deserve success? 

Well, I’m here to tell you, that this kind of psychological behaviour pattern is called The Imposter Syndrome and we will learn a little bit about how to combat it today.

In 2018, Michelle Obama spoke on imposter syndrome and her personal experience. She spoke of being haunted by the “Am I good enough?” question because, as she said, “the messages that are sent from the time we [were] little are: maybe you are not, don’t reach too high, don’t talk too loud.” The reality is imposter syndrome is real. Maybe to a lot of us, it didn’t have a name, now it does. Imposter Syndrome affects anyone irrespective of age, especially those females who are gaining stature at work or venturing into higher social classes than which they were born.

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Personally, I’ve had my fair share of intimidation in the board room and workplace, that have made me questioned whether I actually belonged. Is it too grandiose to be under 30 being the chief executive of a national sector entity, being the youngest in the room and to be honest, feeling like the dumbest one in the room :-)?

2040 Exchange had a quick one and one with Ines Padar, The Imposter Syndrome Terminator, who shed some light on the feeling of constant inadequacy and self-doubt experienced by many people.

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I Will Walk By Faith, Even When I Cannot See Where I Am Going.

Today I woke up with this line replaying in my head … Walk by Faith, Not by Sight. Taken from a popular scripture which reads “For we walk by faith, not by sight” – 2 Corinthians 5:7.

A simple adage, if I can call it that, embodying the notion of living by faith and trusting in God; and to not be motivated by only what one can see in their present circumstances. It may include getting out of your comfort zone, losing control of how things are, being obedient and courageous to push through whatever situation one is in. In the end, as Dena Johnson Martin explains it, it is “a journey of tremendous blessing and reward. It is a journey that is exciting, life-altering, and mind-boggling. It is a journey that will allow you to see and experience God as he was meant to be: in all his fullness and grace”.

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Sex, Still an Uncomfortable Conversation in 2020.

In 2020, the tumultuous year, sex is still an awkward and sensitive conversational topic. One that leaves people feeling embarrassed, vulnerable, and even inadequate.

As the world celebrates the unofficial National Sex Day, I can’t help but notice that as women practise social distancing to not expose themselves to the novel Coronavirus Disease [COVID-19]; some continue to distance themselves from the girl gang sexual talks to not expose their desires.

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Whilst sex is not something one can ignore, as it’s evidently portrayed in movies, music videos, advertisements, books, games, and the list goes on. Females still get a little tongue-tied when the topic arises. As girlfriends, we sit and talk about all things women – fashion, career, family, lifestyle, but not sex.

Ok, fine!!! I don’t need to have a discussion with my friends about my sex life! However, there are those females who still find it difficult to have an open and honest conversation with their partner and even male counterparts about sex. So then, what’s the real issue here?

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Network Up or Across? Millennials, What is Your Strategy?

Your Network is your Net Worth! 

An adage in the professional world and a phrase commonly indoctrinated in the minds of millennials. But why though?

It’s about the ability to build great, mutually beneficial relationships. A highly demanded soft skill, building relations is the core of networking. Often times, building a network is aliken to mining for gold. Hereby, it is about getting to know and trust people, resulting in authentic personal and professional connections that can enhance reputation; secure a job or business deal. Get it?

Author Porter Gale in her book, Your Network is Your Net Worth, explains that networking is a new beast; and an important asset in your portfolio. As important and enticing as that may sound, networking is sometimes uncomfortable and simply, not an easy feat.

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Actress, Producer & Comedian. Issa Rae a few years ago gave a piece of astounding advice where networking is concerned. She said, “we have a tendency of trying to network up, but it’s really about networking across”. A point worth noting, what say you?

(Photo: Amy Sussman/Getty Images for Women in Film)

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Raising Bold, Self-Aware & Daring Girls

March 8th, International Women’s Day [IWD2020], a day to celebrate the marvellous contribution and achievements of women across the globe, under the theme #EachforEqual.

According to #WEForum, “an equal world is an enabled world” and every single one of us has our part to play in bringing bout gender equality. Whilst we celebrate International Women’s Day focusing on the difference that women around the globe are making, 2040 Exchange wants to shed some light on the difference women are making in the lives of their daughters. The heroines raising the next generation of self-confident, daring and bold women that will empower and support each other.

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