The Imposter Syndrome Explained & Conquered With Ines Padar

Hey Overachiever!

What new job did you start this year? Which award did you receive this year? What new company or venture have you been excelling in? Do you feel as though these accomplishments were just luck? Are you feeling like you are in over your head? Are you afraid of asking for that pay increase to match your worth? Are you questioning whether or not you really deserve success? 

Well, I’m here to tell you, that this kind of psychological behaviour pattern is called The Imposter Syndrome and we will learn a little bit about how to combat it today.

In 2018, Michelle Obama spoke on imposter syndrome and her personal experience. She spoke of being haunted by the “Am I good enough?” question because, as she said, “the messages that are sent from the time we [were] little are: maybe you are not, don’t reach too high, don’t talk too loud.” The reality is imposter syndrome is real. Maybe to a lot of us, it didn’t have a name, now it does. Imposter Syndrome affects anyone irrespective of age, especially those females who are gaining stature at work or venturing into higher social classes than which they were born.

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Personally, I’ve had my fair share of intimidation in the board room and workplace, that have made me questioned whether I actually belonged. Is it too grandiose to be under 30 being the chief executive of a national sector entity, being the youngest in the room and to be honest, feeling like the dumbest one in the room :-)?

2040 Exchange had a quick one and one with Ines Padar, The Imposter Syndrome Terminator, who shed some light on the feeling of constant inadequacy and self-doubt experienced by many people.

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I Will Walk By Faith, Even When I Cannot See Where I Am Going.

Today I woke up with this line replaying in my head … Walk by Faith, Not by Sight. Taken from a popular scripture which reads “For we walk by faith, not by sight” – 2 Corinthians 5:7.

A simple adage, if I can call it that, embodying the notion of living by faith and trusting in God; and to not be motivated by only what one can see in their present circumstances. It may include getting out of your comfort zone, losing control of how things are, being obedient and courageous to push through whatever situation one is in. In the end, as Dena Johnson Martin explains it, it is “a journey of tremendous blessing and reward. It is a journey that is exciting, life-altering, and mind-boggling. It is a journey that will allow you to see and experience God as he was meant to be: in all his fullness and grace”.

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Sex, Still an Uncomfortable Conversation in 2020.

In 2020, the tumultuous year, sex is still an awkward and sensitive conversational topic. One that leaves people feeling embarrassed, vulnerable, and even inadequate.

As the world celebrates the unofficial National Sex Day, I can’t help but notice that as women practise social distancing to not expose themselves to the novel Coronavirus Disease [COVID-19]; some continue to distance themselves from the girl gang sexual talks to not expose their desires.


Whilst sex is not something one can ignore, as it’s evidently portrayed in movies, music videos, advertisements, books, games, and the list goes on. Females still get a little tongue-tied when the topic arises. As girlfriends, we sit and talk about all things women – fashion, career, family, lifestyle, but not sex.

Ok, fine!!! I don’t need to have a discussion with my friends about my sex life! However, there are those females who still find it difficult to have an open and honest conversation with their partner and even male counterparts about sex. So then, what’s the real issue here?

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It is OK to ask for help

If you’ve ever shied away from asking for help out of fear of feeling weak, you are not alone.

I have always been afraid to ask people for help; especially when it’s beneficial to me and not them. I’ve always considered asking for help a vulnerability; after all, who wants to willingly reveal their weaknesses? Or so I thought.

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As I grew older and became more aware, I learned and accepted that I cannot do everything on my own. The old adage said, “No man is an island, no man stands alone”.

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I touch my self topless #breastcancerawareness

October is internationally recognised as Breast Cancer Awareness Month and we want to use the platform to empower women to take action by learning more and doing more.

Breast cancer is the most common cancer in women worldwide. The number of cases has increased significantly over the past decade spanning women of all ages. It is safe to generalise and say that one in every ten women will be affected by breast cancer over the course of their lifetime. The increase in deaths as a result of cancer and more specifically breast cancer is increasing annually. To that end, we do believe every woman should be proactive in knowing about it and doing whatever they can to be on the alert and responsive.


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